It has been far too long since I’ve been on here sharing my thoughts with this site, but I have been a bit busy out living life…
I have gone from being the rare unicorn who had never been on a date to now being married.
Being married less than a week, I won’t claim to be an expert.
Actually, I’m going to first share a challenge:
I was not adequately prepared for how little sleep I’d get once married…
Now, I’m not talking because of fun married people activities, (which, I can confirm are fun after waiting until marriage to experience them) but, I’m talking because of sharing a bed with someone.
During the last few weeks, I’ve had plenty of discreet encounters regarding things in the bedroom – but not one of those pokes, winks, jokes, or loving pieces of advice offered the warning that sharing a bed with someone means I’d get almost no sleep I embark on married life.
I am deliriously tired at this point…and we are only 6 days in.
That said; let me tell you what wonderful things I have traded that sleep for:
- A man who was literally there to help me up when I took a nasty fall the 3rd day of our marriage. We’re talking swollen knees, skinned up hands, and almost hitting my head. He was at my side, held me while I cried, and made sure I only got up when safe to do so.
- A partner in ministry, who is introducing me to his world, and allowing me to be a part of it all.
- A man who is supportive and encouraging, even when my clients cancel and I share ideas and dreams I have. A man who has a vision of life that closely matches mine, and can’t wait to watch it all unfold and live it out with me.
- A Valentine, for the first time in my life. We didn’t really do much, but he bought me some of my favorite flowers, an adorable elephant mug (my new favorite), and I got to cook him a delicious meal, complete with hand-dipped chocolate covered strawberries.
- Knowing that tonight, after having the house to myself, he will come home to me, instead of having to “go home”, we now have our home. And, when he takes the trash to the curb tonight, he gets to come back to bed with me, instead of leaving me.
- A few glorious mornings this week that we got to take our time, waking up next to one another, having his beautiful face be the first I see in the morning.
- With the stress of the wedding behind us, I have mellowed a bit. We’ve had tiny miscommunications & disagreements, but we are prepared to face those down side-by-side, finding a way to solve them.
This short time in marriage, we haven’t had a honeymoon yet. Just a few days away before getting back to reality. Already, we’ve had the struggle of “where do we put things”, “how do we combine lives”, and “I don’t want to go to work today”. We’ve had a terrible fall & some sweet moments. This is married life. Married life is learning to do it all together – even figuring out how to sleep.
So, yes, right now, I’m deliriously tired…maybe even to the verge of hallucinations, but I’d rather be this way than be without my love.
There you have it, I’ve gone from being a girl who’d never been kissed to being married – and it’s beautiful and exciting. And, tiring for now, but it’s an adjustment I’m willing to make, because my best friend is with me all the time.