Embracing the Single Life
As I was working on my last series, I have been thinking a lot about where my focus is going to lie here.
Last year, some of you may remember Cousin convinced me to document my Adventures in Dating. Telling my story of single life, and trying to get out there. And, though I met someone during that time, here I am, a year later, single.
So, I’m challenging myself this time. Embracing the Single Life.
That’s the direction this blog is taking now.
I have a little sister who feels like she may never get married, because of the career she has chosen. I want her to know that that is OK. That if she chooses that path, she’s still amazing, God is still going to work in and through her, and her life will have wonderful fulfillment.
My other little sister may well get married before I do. She’s in a long-term relationship that may be heading that direction. I want her to know that that is great, too. That she’s amazing, God is still going to work in and through her, and her life will have wonderful fulfillment.
Until now, I haven’t been bold. I have been letting fear hold me back. Fear that if my future him reads these posts, that he will think I’m desperate. Focused too much on getting a relationship. I have let my idea that I have to only write about the Spiritual matters, and fearful of what will come if I add in the life part of Spiritual Life.
But, it’s time to get real.
My singleness is a big part of who I am. And, my faith is central in my life, and cannot be removed from my singleness.
Single, never married Christian is my daily reality.
27. Single. Waiting for someone passionately pursuing Christ to change that.
But, does this waiting mean not living?
Absolutely Not.
Does waiting mean not serving?
Hardly
Here’s what I realized recently in one of my quiet times:
Embracing & enjoying my singleness doesn’t make me undatable.
And, desiring a relationship & praying for my future spouse doesn’t make me desperate.
It makes me human.
So, now, that’s what I will be doing – embracing singleness, and blogging on it.
That doesn’t mean I won’t be continuing to do the online dating thing, letting friends know they can set me up, praying for my future husband.
What it does mean: I will continue to do all of these things, all while living a pretty fantastic life as a single, independent woman.
I’m going to kick it off with a 30 Day – Embracing the Single Life Challenge. I looked around Pinterest for “single girl” challenges. I took activities & suggestions from several places to make my own. I won’t be writing every day, but you’ll hear from me a lot throughout the challenge – along the way sharing what God is showing me, and how I am feeling His love & seeing Him move in my life.
Along the way, I hope to encourage others who may be in similar situations. Just remember – desire doesn’t equal desperation. And fulfillment doesn’t negate desire.
We’re in this together, and God has so much amazing for us – if we just stay open.
Embracing the Single Life – 30 Day Challenge
** Day one was “follow a cute friend of a friend on IG” **
Any Single readers out there that want to join in the fun – welcome! Let me know how it goes for you.
For readers in relationships, many of these challenges work just as well. Many of them are about loving yourself more, becoming more comfortable with yourself, so feel free to join in on any of the fun you’d like.
I look forward to sharing the journey with you all.
Author Candice Jenee’ 